Kira Kazantsev | Taking Back My Narrative
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Taking Back My Narrative I must’ve aged 10 years over the past 24 hours. I’ve said it before, but there is nothing you can do to truly prepare yourself for actually being Miss America. Not until you live it do you understand the challenges that you will have to face and what you must do to overcome them.

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Over the past 24 hours, I have experienced cyber-bullying, hatred, and judgment unlike ever before. People write you off at a moment’s notice, simply rejoicing in the fact that you might’ve done something wrong.  

But only he who has not sinned can throw a stone at me, and I believe we are hard-pressed to find that sort of person anywhere.  

viagra express shipping in new jersey The best decision I’ve made in all of this was to tell the truth. When I first found out about all of this, I wanted to crawl under a rock and never come out, hoping that it would just go away. But of course it didn’t, and that’s just not what Miss America does. Miss America faces things head on. She leads by example and remains honest and forthcoming. That is what I have chosen to do. No matter how much my narrative has been ripped away from me, I have to maintain my integrity and be Miss America through it all.

enter The hardest question I was asked today during my interview on Good Morning America was not about the allegations or the actual circumstances surrounding my termination from Alpha Phi, but having to respond to the question of what little girls might think absolutely broke my heart.  

Those that know me well know I love kids more than anything. My little brother is eight years younger than me and has taught me to be like a second mom to him.

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go site I hope that through my year as Miss America, I can show people, especially young girls, that it’s ok to make mistakes. Almost every single successful person has made them and has been able to overcome, because frankly, that is reality. I want to now use my experiences to continue perpetuating positivity. You’ll see me this year teaching little girls about healthy relationships, because I have seen firsthand what unhealthy relationships can do and what they look like and can speak to that subject from my heart.

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I will speak with young women entering college about what to look for in both a sisterhood and an intimate partner in terms of potential dishonest or abusive behavior as I have also lived this and can speak to the subject from my heart.


thesis binding malaysia Most of all, my goal as Miss America this year is to elevate women on a broader scale by encouraging women to help one another instead of tearing each other down, by advocating for equality on every level and making women’s issues into non-issues.  

source site Lastly, I’d like to take this opportunity to thank everyone who has been so supportive during this time. Thank you for every encouraging text, phone call, and email, all letting me know that I am loved and supported. Of course, special thank you to the Miss America Organization for standing behind me and guiding me through this unfamiliar territory and to my family for being my strength when I needed it the most.

  • Leah Tibbitts
    September 23, 2014 at 9:58 pm
    • ann Lavine

      see Kira, I am so pleased you are Miss America. I loved your talent how fun!
      People can be mean as you know and I am sorry you have to deal with the worst in people. Being Miss America should be a positive time for. Those who love you will have your back …. those who do not are not worth thinking about.
      You might be interested in a blog by Alyssa Campanella. She was Miss USA a few years ago. She was bullied as Miss USA. Her blog is at May you know how much God loves you.
      ann Lavine

      September 24, 2014 at 4:48 am
    • Nancy Ellis

      creative writing prompts grade 3 Standing with sorry you are being targeted like is so hurtful..stand strong knowing we support you and like you we all have things in out past we wish we could not let the naysayers win..I really believe you will go down as one of our best and favorite Miss America’s..Congrats on the win and keep on smiling.have fun and enjoy your year..the negativity will pass>

      September 24, 2014 at 11:44 am
    • Crystal
      September 25, 2014 at 4:55 pm
  • Ashley White

    go to site Be strong & know even with all the hate you still have support!
    We all make mistakes, but they make us stronger people.

    Lots of love all the way from Arkansas,

    September 24, 2014 at 2:31 am
  • Rose Corey

    cialis store new york i was there when you won. I was watching you on every TV program and I can only say that you are poised, smart and beautiful inside and out. Keep your head high and go forward. There will be so many people in your path and you need to just keep getting your message out there. You are the perfect role model for young women to look up to. Just keep singing the new Taylor Swift song….haters gonna hate…hate…hate. Smile and shine bright. You have many many people supporting you and who stand behind you.

    September 24, 2014 at 2:34 am
  • Layne Sanders
    Reply You’re doing a wonderful job and handling things beautifully. Stay strong, Kira! #standwithkira

    September 24, 2014 at 2:59 am
  • Alyssa Antonio

    Ya know what? It was college. College is the time to figure out who you are; people make great choices and not so great….The Greek system isn’t perfect but for me it was some of the best years and it’s just not fair to base current opinion on actions someone made while in such a formative time. I support you Miss America!!!!! Xoxo from California!!!

    September 24, 2014 at 2:59 am
  • Valerie Clemens

    I am proud to call you Miss America!
    You have so much ahead of you and I have no doubt you do a wonderful job!
    Stay strong, Stay true to yourself and know you are loved!
    XO ,

    September 24, 2014 at 3:04 am
  • Kayla

    Kira, you are incredible. Every naysayer that has something against the Miss America Organization has no idea what an incredible person you truly are. I am blown away daily by how well-spoken and equality-minded you are. You are already such an amazing Miss America.

    September 24, 2014 at 3:13 am
  • Cindy Price

    Kira, My heart goes out to you for having to deal with so much negativity and hatred during what should be an incredibly happy time of your life. Please know that there are many, many more people who are supporting you and who are proud of you for holding your head high, being honest, and retaining your grace and style. What will little girls think of you? Well, in my opinion, they will learn that there is much more to wearing the Miss America crown than just being pretty. They will learn that, when they make a mistake, as everyone does, it is best to be honest and to go on and not just hide under a rock and cry or try to lie about what happened. They will see that everybody, at some point in their lives, needs a helping hand and they will, hopefully, strive to be the person who helps whenever possible. Most of all, they will see that, if they have goals and work hard enough to achieve them, they can do it; that they can even become Miss America! Kira, this is YOUR time! You have so much to offer! Don’t let anyone or anything rob you of even one moment of joy!

    September 24, 2014 at 3:35 am
  • Melisse Morrison

    Dear Kira,
    I have been shocked to see the negative things said about you since you were crowned Miss America. Having only met you a few times, but knowing your family better over the past five years or so, I want you to know that we never gave any credence to any of the smears. It’s something that has become very common in this country, and I find it truly shameful. I hope your year representing the best of America is wonderful, and that you know, as we do, that you deserve the title and all the good that comes with it.
    Much love, Melisse

    September 24, 2014 at 4:10 am
  • Sonya Hall

    BRAVO!! You did a fabulous job on GMA this morning. My heart broke for you when I saw the sadness in your eyes. There is always someone trying to bring down the successful people. Don’t let them! I am always a Miss Arkansas fan first but today I became a Miss America fan too. Keep up the good work!!
    I have set the LORD always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken. Psalms 16:8

    September 24, 2014 at 4:16 am
  • Connie Benson

    Your first hours should have been the best and most exciting of all. It just shouldn’t be this way but sadly, it is our new normal. Let’s work together to change this one person at a time. When speaking to youth, we should encourage them to know how to lose with grace and dignity. The answer to loss is not to try to tear down the rightful winner. Maybe we can all add this to the lessons we teach. I pray you are feeling as strong as you sound. The negative voices may shout loudest but the positive are strong too! Hope you hear us.

    September 24, 2014 at 4:20 am
    • What mature and insightful support for Kira. Wise words. I wish I knew you.

      September 24, 2014 at 8:33 am
  • Krisna Goodwin

    so much hate exists in pageantry… I hope this will change…I can’t imagine how hurt by this you must be, but thank you for facing it all head on and leading by example.. We all made, make and will continue to make mistakes, but we will learn and grow and come out ahead. Let the haters hate and you let that motivate! Godspeed!

    September 24, 2014 at 4:20 am
  • Noel Breen

    You might want to look into a very good libel lawyer. Certain boards on, might be a good place to start.

    September 24, 2014 at 4:24 am
  • I stand behind you Kira . You have handled all of this with grace and dignity as I would expect from you, our Miss America . Bless you and Carry On !!

    September 24, 2014 at 4:27 am
  • Jana Thomas

    Dear Kira,
    I’m writing you to let you know I support you.
    I’m so sorry you are being attacked this way.
    I am exceptionally impressed by how excellent a communicator you are here, especially about a very difficult situation. I find that rare in young people today. They don’t know how to communicate the bad/uncomfortable news. You do. Brilliantly.
    I like that you keep pointing the way for us all to be better people. I just really like your message, and I wanted you to know.
    Keep your head up.
    Hugs, Jana Thomas
    ps EVERYONE came to Miss America to win, and you did. Congratulations!

    September 24, 2014 at 4:33 am
  • Lynne

    My 14-year-old daughter and I were blessed to be in the audience at Boardwalk Hall when you were crowned. Since then we have followed you on all of the pageant social media sites, and watched all of the interviews you’ve given. You are an intelligent, beautiful, and interesting young lady! You have not only handled yourself with poise and class, but you have shown us that you can be graceful under scrutiny. That is what a role model should do. Being Miss America isn’t about just wearing the crown, it’s about the amazing things you do WHILE wearing it. We look forward to following your work with your platform, S.T.E.M., and CMN. In these difficult times, please know that there are a lot of people who support you, and wish only the best for you!! Love and hugs from Oregon!!

    September 24, 2014 at 4:49 am
  • Great job dealing with all of the negativity and short-sighted, ignorant attacks that the public is making Kira. I see all the interviews, satire, support and criticisms about you and the pageant floating through my social news feeds. I am sure it’s a lot to handle to be the one it’s all directed towards but like you said, turn the negatives into positives. The public will judge, misinterpret and twist what you say and do. All you can really do is focus on your goals, not let the negativity distract you and know that you have a huge base of supporters that do want to see you continue being successful.

    Keep it up Kira and be #Kirasistible!

    September 24, 2014 at 7:34 am
  • Emily

    Kira, my heart aches for you and the pain and loneliness that have come with the past few days. I hope you know that you do have supporters and that we stand by you. Keep focused on what you can control and let the rest go. You can’t control the hate in people’s hearts, unfortunately. Just keep focusing on your job and everything will settle down. Prayers for you!

    September 24, 2014 at 11:26 am
  • Olivia


    You’re already doing a FANTASTIC job as Miss America! I know you can get through this year just like anyone else, and in fact, maybe better, since YOU won.

    I agree that everyone makes mistakes and just wanted to let you know that I look up to you!

    September 24, 2014 at 12:31 pm
  • Jason Shaw

    Hello my friend! I just wanted to send you a note of encouragement and tell you how much I respect the way you’re dealing with this. For the longest time, I self-defined by my past mistakes, erecting barriers to potential success and happiness. What I’ve learned is that no one person is only as good as the very worst thing they ever do. The true measure of a person is his/her ability to grow from each experience and find pathways to personal success while hopefully creating value for those arround them. The fact that you find yourself on this path, while tremendously challenging, is such a unique opportunity to do something that will further define your purpose and reveal your extraordinary character. Keep showing them the grit and guile of Miss America. you got this.

    September 24, 2014 at 4:35 pm
  • I’m so sorry you have received such hate in social media. Hi, my name is Kamah Wilson. I’m a world level titleholder in the Our Little Miss pageant system. When I saw your talent I burst into tears because it was so refreshing to see you doing something so real and quirky and fun. You did something so encouraging. There are so many young girls and women that feel worthless because they have nothing “special” about them that they can offer as a talent. It’s simply not true. You got that message across in an amazing way by simply having fun and doing what you loved! This warms my heart. I think the pageant world and young girls everywhere are so blessed to have the example you set. One of the objectives of my platform is to encourage young women to be dreamers. You reminded girls that they can dream any dream they want. Some don’t have the opportunity to be classically trained I some skill and that is okay! You representing that ideal so well. I just wanted to let you know that I am so humbled and blessed by you. I don’t know if you will even get this or read this or even reply. But I hope you at least see this to know that you have touched at least one heart somewhere. I hope to follow your lead. I am impressed by your intelligence and your smile, your testimony and your platform…I am so proud of you! Royally yours, Kamah Wilson – Worlds Universal Girl 2015

    September 24, 2014 at 4:43 pm
  • Amanda Abrams

    I was infuriated at the horrible comments I have been hearing from people towards you who know nothing about pageantry or anything relatively close to it. It makes me so angry! But I realize that these people don’t know you. They can’t complain. We love you, Kira!

    September 24, 2014 at 5:26 pm
  • A Friend from Hofstra

    Knowing you personally during our time at Hofstra, I can attest to your academic integrity and lovely spirit. It’s amazing that you are helping give voice to women who have suffered abusive relationships and may have once felt powerless, as well to as young girls who can learn greatly from this dialogue. Don’t let anyone bring you down! Very best wishes. xo

    September 24, 2014 at 9:00 pm
  • There was never a doubt in my mind Kira that you would be
    honest and face the ugly comments and allegations that have come your way this week.

    Unfortunately no one can protect you from the insecure, angry uneducated people that are out there……except yourself. Always hold your head high and know that you are the role model for little girls and boys and thats what really matters.

    Hold tight you have a fantastic year ahead of you….enjoy the ride

    September 25, 2014 at 12:25 am
  • Jacki Downing

    Kira, to say you are loved and supported is an understatement! No one ever really will know what possess some people to be so quick to judge and ridicule. I am appalled at the comments of perfect strangers and can only chalk up their ignorance to their own insecurities about themselves. You are handling yourself with tremendous grace and dignity. You keep your chin up and keep going forward! You are doing an incredible job… Can’t wait to see all you contribute, offer up, and achieve during your reign as Miss America!! You make us all proud!

    September 25, 2014 at 1:23 am
  • Larainne Deal

    I cried when you were crowned Miss America! I have watched the pageant since I was a young girl — and I am now 50+ years old! I was pulling for you! You — and Mallory Hagan — are my favorites of the “modern” Miss Americas! Do NOT let these people who are seeking to bully YOU, get you down! EVERYONE has made mistakes — and oftentimes, it is our mistakes that make us to be better people! LOVED your talent – -and I am a music major! Your voice was wonderful — and your rhythm (with the cup) was perfect! I can “way more” see people identifying with a talent like that — and you were AWESOME! Keep smiling! We are watching — and supporting — and are so sorry for what you have had to go through with these accusations. Every sorority in the world has “imitations” — and even though, we do need to make sure they are “appropriate”, we do NOT need to needlessly criticize — instead we need to educate! — and that is PRECISELY what you are doing! Proud of you! Sincerely, “an old woman from North Carolina” 🙂

    September 25, 2014 at 9:45 pm
    • Larainne Deal

      should have said initiations — lol — long day — sick with a cold — lol

      September 25, 2014 at 9:46 pm
  • Sara Bonafiglia

    My little girl Agnese Bella performed “Cups” in her pageant last year and won 1st runner-up. This year she had a dance routine ready, and was excited to dance to “Happy”, yet they cancelled the talent portion in her age group……she still won the title anyways! So this morning when she saw the video of you performing onstage at the Miss America Pageant she smiled so big while looking in the mirror as I brushed her hair before school, and said, “Someday I’m gonna be Miss America!” Thank you for being a positive light in our morning sun Kira!

    September 26, 2014 at 3:56 am
  • Natasha

    I wanted to say thank you. I have dealt with a similar situation with my sorority. I was able to keep my letters, however, still deal the judgement of an honest mistake (especially if they have the wrong story). You are the first person who has spoken about what happened and openly shared their side of the story while still standing by your sorority. I respect you and am excited to have a role model like you in my life time!

    September 28, 2014 at 12:24 am
  • Lisa

    I know you love children I know you love to teach them I know you love to be with them and I know you love to help others you study hard you have a graced us all with your words and actions

    October 12, 2014 at 2:08 pm

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